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How to Master Decision Making

There are many ways to master the quick and easy decisions with confidence BUT we stop them by putting up barriers. The one that I see most often is the minimizer words  that we use in our own inner chatter. They diminish the power of your thoughts. When you eliminate these from your thoughts you have found the most effective way to master decision. The biggest culprit of all: The word BUT. When you need to make the small decisions of every day life quickly and easily, listen to your inner chatter and see what words are there. The hem & haw words ~ especially but ~ will slow down the process if not stop you in your tracks.

Mindset, Minimizers, Decision Making, Clarity

Energetic barriers stop us from stepping forward into all that is meant to be. They exist all around us~ especially in our own inner chatter. We want to step forward. We want to proceed. We want success but <dot, dot, dot>. It is here you can start the learning process of mastering decision making.

Here’s an exercise to see how barriers exist. Read these sentences slowly and feel the energetic barrier that is put up at the word ‘But’:

See how you have desires and wishes but the “BUT” gets in the way. Now read these sentences ~ shifted without the BUT in them:

Reframing your “BUT”s…..reframing your minimizing words allows for more momentum. Even if you do decide not to do something~ it comes from a place of empowering choice. When our words create energetic barriers, our days are slower. We hem and haw over decisions and do not get as much done. For me, it’s not so much about NOT getting much done as it is sitting in that space of wasted decision making time. I’d much rather sit in a place of JOY and curiosity over what will unfold. By taking the “BUT” out of it, you no likely will move your butt into Joy more!!! To master Decision Making, you must master your thoughts. To do this, begin with the easy decisions of day to day life. 

Take this out of the equation and you will start making decisions with greater ease, gain more confidence and start moving your own butt forward. Stop, take a breath of fresh AIR and use it to refocus your thoughts!!! You’ll be glad you did. (Oh and when it comes from a spiritual or enlightened perspective. You can certainly use Muscle Testing and Dowsing/Pendulum techniques which i have talked about and will talk about more BUT for the time being try reframing your words and see what happens! ) Once you’ve worked on how to master these day-to-day decisions, the harder decisions become easier!!!

What are your mimimizers that inhibit your ability to master decision making? I’ve used BUT as an example but there are several others! 

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  1. I totally agree! I love the term “Minimizer Words” – YES – they totally second-guess and undermine your confidence, passion, direction and joy!

    Comment by Cena from — March 31, 2014 @ 10:25 am

  2. 🙂 Cena ~ I love the term too ~ it’s something I use with clients A LOT when we are working together. Sometimes, it’s the little shifts that create massive changes and when I point this out to them not only does the light bulb go off but so do the Fireworks!!!! KEEP SMILING

    Comment by Laura Clark — March 31, 2014 @ 11:35 am

  3. One big minimizer that came to mind for me is how I overthink every single thing on my to-do list. It’s almost like I set out to do it, then try to talk myself out of completing it! This keeps me so stuck, and not very productive at all! Thanks for bringing this to my awareness.

    Comment by Kathy — March 31, 2014 @ 6:45 pm

  4. Kathy! I get this ~ my list once dictated my actions. One list item at a time. Self-defeating talk is so very common and difficult to curtail. Seeing it, acknowledging it is the biggest step to overcoming it!!!! Congrats on that recognition ~ let me know how I can support you 🙂 KEEP SMILING

    Comment by Laura Clark — March 31, 2014 @ 9:42 pm

  5. Laura, I especially love your use of “I wonder” and “It will feel awesome when”. Very powerful!

    Another way I practice re-framing is to replace “but” with “and.” It reminds me that I can choose to live in a both/and world rather than an either/or world or a but-filled one.

    Comment by Kathleen Watson — April 2, 2014 @ 2:55 pm

  6. But…. But….. negates everything that comes before it. Such simple words with such power!

    Comment by Jane — April 2, 2014 @ 10:31 pm

  7. They do have such power, Jane! And, I so prefer positive than negating as you say!!!! Thanks for your comment! KEEP SMILING 🙂

    Comment by Laura Clark — April 5, 2014 @ 10:01 am

  8. I love the art of reframing! It is such an empowering tool enhanced by our awareness. I love to challenge myself to see the “both and” in situations. This allows me to honor my feelings but still move to action. Thank you for the post.

    Comment by Kelley Grimes — April 3, 2014 @ 11:36 am

  9. Kelley!! Agreed, the art of reframing is too underused by all of us…Awareness leads to reframing which leads to profound growth and development!!! Thanks for stopping by 🙂

    Comment by Laura Clark — April 5, 2014 @ 10:02 am

  10. Laura I love your posts! This one I really enjoyed! Very smack, bam… Here’s how you fix it! I love simple solutions… And all I have to do is take my “BUT” out! I am totally gonna use this on my kids too!

    Comment by Kelly — April 11, 2014 @ 7:59 am

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